When in the Fog you have two directions you can take to get out of it. Spiraling Down is the easy way. As I noted in my last post, your self-talk is made in statements that, left unchallenged, become more absolute. Spiraling Up, on the other hand, takes effort, skill, and intention both in doing it yourself and helping others to also. The biggest difference is that the self-talk migrates quickly to questions and those questions add information that allows us to be effective and productive in our responses to the situation that initiated the Fog.
To encourage yourself and others to chose to Spiral Up and do that work, ask the above questions. Remember to lead with compassion, empathy, and grace. Yes, I will keep beating that drum!
Now, if you are there and your team is there, you are not there! Sustaining Spiraling Up takes attention and reinforcement. You have to notice these behaviors when they happen; acknowledge people (yourself included) when they engage in this manner; and celebrate these behaviors and efforts as wins.
And one more thing…when you get one of these wins, be sure to take notes on how you got there so you can reference back and do it again, and again. We need to analyze and learn from success. That is how you sustain Spiraling Up.
What Spiral Up celebrations do you have this week?