I am putting out a series of posts getting specific on how to use the Spiral and will give some examples of how it can play out during this challenging time.
I have had several recent posts about the Fog so let’s start with some clarity around what Spiraling Down looks like and how to address it.
Self-talk will be in the form of statements that become more and more absolute as you further Spiral Down, and your behaviors become more destructive.
Do not confuse people bringing up issues with Spiraling Down. The difference is…are they seeking or offering ideas or solutions or are they only complaining as if it will never get better, they have no role in fixing it and/or blaming others. It is okay to stir the pot, so the bottom doesn’t burn, that is taking responsibility (a Spiral Up behavior).
Here is how to address Spiraling Down…
If it is you Spiraling Down
If it is an employee, a colleague, or a friend Spiraling Down
Now, this all sounds so easy, right? It isn't! It requires intention, focus, authenticity, and persistence.
How do you see this playing out in your current situation? How best do I support you? (like for real!)
In the next post I will speak to Spiraling Up, what it looks like and how to sustain it.